After a deployment, many TDY’s, and a partial short tour, you’d think my military wife meltdowns wouldn’t exist. That I’m learning how to deal…
This is not true.
During our first deployment, I would have a SOLID meltdown once a month. Now that I am looking back on the times, I truly believe I needed the meltdowns to survive.
I wasn’t blaming him for my anger. Because if there was anyone who understood what I was going through- It was HIM.
Emotional tears… not from cutting an onion or having something in your eye. I’m talking about tears that you cannot stop, letting out little kid wails, trying to catch your breath crying.
A good cry helps release toxins from the body that builds up during emotional stress. Crying also reduces your body’s manganese level which definitely impacts your mood.
If you find yourself easily frustrated standing in line at the grocery store and someone leaves their cart in front of you to go get something at the back of the store… cry.
If you are easily frustrated with calling for appointments at military installations… cry.
If you are frustrated with family never coming to visit you especially when you are alone… cry.
If you are frustrated with something that happened at work or at home with your kids/animals… cry.
CRY. IT. OUT.
Its like therapy, only cheaper.
Each tear is emotional baggage leaving your body.
It shows you are human and that you care.
Being upset when the most important person in your life is gone shows that your military relationship means something to you. That you dont want anything to happen to them and that you want them a part of your every day life.
Having an occasional meltdown is healthy and normal.
Of course… You want to stay positive and avoid wallowing but when you love and carea bout someone, it’s natural to feel sadness over their absence.
It’s the truest feeling that you’re relationship is healthy and thriving.
Through these meltdowns you are learning more about yourself as well. You learn to calm yourself down… and that is huge right there… When the most important person in the world isn’t by your side.
Each time I “Lose it” during time away from my husband, I come out stronger. My guess is that you do to.
Believe me when I say this:
A good deployment meltdown only means one thing: YOU GOT THIS.
Rocking Bryces 